Simple Steps To Stop Supporting Other People’s Drama

Have you have heard the expression, “we create our own reality?”  We can either Consciously Create or Mis-Create our experiences.  The special sauce is in how  we respond to any given moment.

We are a STAR on our own stage … that we create.

We do not need to participate as a supporting role in another person’s drama – ever.

According to Don Miguel Ruiz, author, there are “Four Agreements” that can help us live a life of liberation.


As one begins to practice the above four agreements combined with heightened awareness, mindfulness, consciousness, compassion and forgiveness, as regular habits, it will become very easy to recognize when someone is acting from their ego (edging God out.)  Therefore, it becomes easy to not engage in their “playwright” and not succumb to their reality, but remain firm in yours.

It is one thing to talk the talk of higher consciousness it is something completely different to walk your talk and as Marianne Williamson said recently, “Living a meaningful life is not a popularity contest.  If what you’re saying is always getting applause, you’re probably not yet doing the right stuff.”

When you act and live a life according to certain principles, according to God’s Laws – Universal Laws, you are never disturbed by other people’s activated ego’s.

Ego’s survival mechanism includes blame, defense, dismissals and disassociation

(as if to say, “if you don’t play my way, I’m going home and taking my ball with me!”)

We are never responsible for how another responds to a situation.

However, we are responsible for how we respond.

Ego is activated when guilt and/or truth are exposed.
Ego does NOT like to be questioned or even entertain questions.

Therefore a person acting from ego instead of awareness does not seek to
understand and opportunity can be missed for growth on a personal, business and spiritual level.

If you allow yourself to be in the present moment during any or all interactions you will witness magical opportunities to expand your consciousness and heart that will let your soul soar!

When you are greeted with something that you do not like, seek to understand first.  Build space in-between so that you are not tempted to blame, strike out, jump to conclusions and judge.  These are all limiting behaviors, taught by society and are not natural to our true being.

In the words of Gary Douglas and Dain Heer from Access Consciousness, one way to build that space is by stating, what an “interesting point of view you have.”

Recognize the behaviors of the ego.  I invite you to practice The Four Agreements and you will never need to play a supporting role in someone else’s drama.

Instead, try to have compassion for their state of being.

Try to forgive them, for they truly do not know what they have done,

for they were “asleep” at the time of your interaction.

Love them completely.

Bless them, yourself and the entire situation.

Walk your talk – live free and come from a pure heart.

Mindfully & gratefully,

About The Author

Pamella Horton

As a child, Pamella Horton was a quiet observer who learned in her formative years how to protect her then fragile, inner self with perfection, over achievement, defense, deflection, dismissal and disassociation. Today, she is a blessed woman, entrepreneur, dedicated wife, mother, life enthusiast & athlete who has taken her life experiences and repetitive behaviors both healthy and unhealthy to a place of peace and joy.