9 Tips To Make It Through Thanksgiving If Your Holiday Isn’t From A Norman Rockwell Painting

It is the perfect day to give thanks.  A day honoring tradition/s.  A day where we come together with family and friends to celebrate our love for one another and give thanks to our blessings.

Let’s face it though. For some, today and Holiday’s in general, are not something that comes out of a Norman Rockwell painting or that of a television show.  The Holiday Season can be highly stressful for people, simply because they will be with their families.  Ironic and true.

For some fellow beings, it is like walking into a mine field.  They feel the need to wear armor. (psychological armor)

Others may work themselves to exhaustion in preparation for the meal, with little thanks.

Some folks may feel like they are a teenager again.  A teenager that becomes defensive, walking into their parent’s home, ready to defend against criticism.

Other people may be missing their loved ones, for their holiday may never be the same after losing them.  Lastly, this may be your first time without your loved one and you will have moments through out the day where one minute, tears will spring up and a lump in your throat will appear, then the next minute, hearty laughter will spill from you.

I offer those that may experience these feelings the following 9 tips:

* Do it differently today.  Do SOMETHING differently.  Part your hair to the other side.  Normally dress up?  Then, dress down and vice versa…. Hug a little longer, hold them a little tighter.

* KNOW, be aware of the way you would normally react to a conversation or a situation.  Recognize the way that your family expects you to react.

* Be vigilant with this awareness and build space between what triggers you and your reaction. You will find that you will have no need to react.

* Feel the perspective that your loved one (the one that usually triggers you) is coming from.  What was their childhood like, what kind of marriage do they have?   Have compassion for them and their need to “be this way.”

* BREATHE through the moment and know that this too shall pass.

* If you are the one to “do everything” for the day, ask someone else to help like younger members of the family, while you just sit back and relax a little more.

**Trust & be OK that it may not be done exactly how you would have done it and respect their way.**

* Let go of the need to be right.

* Try eating with your non dominant hand through out your meal.  This will make you highly aware of your mood to help build that space in between the trigger and your usual response.  This will also help with eating more mindfully to avoid over eating due to the stress of being with your family.

* Those that are missing a loved one.  Let the tears come.  Sit and breathe through the pain.  Do NOT hide or resist it.  Allow it and you will find yourself celebrating their life more powerfully and you will feel closer to them than you ever have.

Much love to you all.  May blessings shower you today and every day.  Be kind to yourself during this delicate time of year.

Mindfully yours,
Pamela 

About The Author

Pamella Horton

As a child, Pamella Horton was a quiet observer who learned in her formative years how to protect her then fragile, inner self with perfection, over achievement, defense, deflection, dismissal and disassociation. Today, she is a blessed woman, entrepreneur, dedicated wife, mother, life enthusiast & athlete who has taken her life experiences and repetitive behaviors both healthy and unhealthy to a place of peace and joy.